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| Tuesday, March 18, 2008 |
We never know what we have, until we get close to losing it.
And you sometimes never know what you have missed, until you suddenly find it.
They say if you love someone, set them free. If he/she comes back to you, he/she was always meant to be yours.
I have my policy for friends.
If you have a good friend, fight with them. If they still come back to you, after the ugly fight, its a friend you have found for life and I will do anything to keep them close to me. So thats my litmus test.
Its one of those days when my mind is clouded with thoughts plenty, about various things scattered all over.
A sweet friend was so shocked to hear we were considering moving, although in the distant future, and said, "Oh, Dont go!" This is the place and this is the time I have stayed long enough in one place to make lasting relationships. I like simple down-to-earth people, without any high-and-mighty airs, after all I am simple soul myself.
Sometimes I feel sad that I have not been able to make good strong friends, because of my nomadic life. The longest I have stayed in one place to make strong relationships is four years. And what happens is, I have always been so distinct, I never follow the crowd. So I am always a misfit, wherever I go. For once I feel the sense of belonging, and I have fit in. The feeling is just wonderful. How great is it to have friends who take you for what you are and dont judge you. To feel comfortable in a room of about 30 people, not feeling aloof, spending time in shifts to talk to everyone and get updated on their lives, including DH who is now so much part of the gang, that my friends talk to him more than with me ;--), is just beautiful.
And there are these other relationships, the ones I made in my short stints at various phases in life. Even though I am rarely in touch, it never feels like it when we do finally get to chat. This one friend I talked to yesterday, after the usual gossip session on who is doing what, she said she is happy to see me happy. When I was down in the dumps she is one of those who helped me climb up, helped me step up, boost my morale and confidence. I will forever hold them high in my heart.
If I am a strong person now, I am grateful to have had some strong willed friends, brushing with whom I carried the strength in me to get on with life.
Ok, contradicting my previous statement, there are moments when sometimes I feel so weak, and totally not ready to take up the challenges that life throws at me.At these times, I have DH to support me, and get me through the hard times. How grateful I am, to have such a great friend and supporter to walk the life with me. I have probably said this before, but I do staunchly believe "Dont marry someone you can live with, marry you someone you cannot live without".
Sometimes in life you have to make a decision, and fight with yourself before deciding. Head says yes, heart says no or vice versa. I am sure everyone has made the tough choice, chosen family over work, or chosen work over family. Chosen parents over spouse, or spouse over parents. Life is a bag of surprises. The trick is to appreciate life for it has to offer.
One day you sit and make an elaborate plan. For a month, for a year, for your whole life. And suddenly unexpectedly things change. It makes you look at life differently, it makes you think of all that was, and all that could have been. It makes you look at your spouse in a different way. It makes you appreciate him for what he is and what he is not. What he could have done, and what he did not do. You take the good night hug for granted, the kiss on the forehead in the wee hours of the morning for granted. And so many other things, which I will not quote here for granted. You take your whole life for granted, with all its happiness. We are so entwined in our own little worlds, our silly troubles, we fail to see the big picture, and it hits one hard.
I dont know what the point of the post is, just felt like writing it down.
PS: I am a mixed bag of emotions today. I dont know if I am happy or unhappy. Weird, I know. |
posted by SK @ 7:16 AM  |
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ur a cancerian..totally! n like me... :)
conflictin emotions is somethin i experience alllll the time...not kiddin...wherever i am, whoever im with, when im totally blisfully happy, from somewhere there's this naggin thought at the bak of my mind makin me wonder if im truly happy or is it twinged with sadness somewhere...n there'd b no apparent reason for me to be sad at tat moment! :)
but yea, friendz cn make life totally worthwhile...n so cn a partner...lift u up when ur down, understand and guide u when ur wrong, all tat without bein judgemental...
i guess we really r a lucky bunch to b able to analyze this huh? :)
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Have a cup of filter kaapi. Only that can solve this ;)
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we all have these mixed bag days I guess.. just take and deep breath, say thanks for all that you have had so far and are going to have in the future and just relax.. :).
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Preeti,
Really? Do you really think we are lucky to think soo much? ;--)
Moods is our middle name ne?
Arun,
Acho who will make me filter kaapi :--D
Sree,
Thankoo. Yes, deep breaths help! :--)
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Isn't that what we all are? A mixed bag. Its nice you take the time to think about the stuff that is happening to you and are able to appreciate the things you do have. Sometimes that is the point na?
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It's a beautiful post. You've put it all so well in perspective.
It's so true that relationships almost govern our lives.
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They say life is what happens when you are busy planning other things :-)
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Sk what feelings and all for friends!
Absolutely not worth it. All symbiosis. Wherever you go you can find somebody.
-Ok
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@Arun. filter kapi? ithu bru pa :)
SK.. Romba yosichu kozhapikaathinga..Ivlo yosichu kadaiseela entha decisionkum varla.. Athukku thaan na mooLaiku velaiye kudukrathula.. thaenju poidumla.. :)
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SK, have a lil something for you on my blog.
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Laksh,
Yes sometimes its good to think about such things, but sometimes it generously bites into your spare time ;--))And thankoooo!! I am sooooo honoured!! You have made my day today! :--))
Archana,
Thankoo. :--)
Shilpa,
Yes haha so very true! :--)
Ok,
Apdi podu. I wanted to hear something like this :--))
Lone Star, hehe correct, I dont know why I go into one of those moods, even though I know it is no use thinking so much :--))
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You are experencing life at its fullest. What is amazing is everyone must have gone through this phase and we know about it too, yet when we go through it, it seems so unique, because of our emotions and what we feel, I think. If you want to hear me, think but do not think too much.
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SK check blog and let me know if its ok?
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Joy,
Heehee true, I am past that phase, thank god! :--) Happy as a butterfly now :--D
Ok,
Ok ok.! :--)
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ur a cancerian..totally! n like me... :)
conflictin emotions is somethin i experience alllll the time...not kiddin...wherever i am, whoever im with, when im totally blisfully happy, from somewhere there's this naggin thought at the bak of my mind makin me wonder if im truly happy or is it twinged with sadness somewhere...n there'd b no apparent reason for me to be sad at tat moment! :)
but yea, friendz cn make life totally worthwhile...n so cn a partner...lift u up when ur down, understand and guide u when ur wrong, all tat without bein judgemental...
i guess we really r a lucky bunch to b able to analyze this huh? :)