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| Monday, June 04, 2012 |
So my parents left this Saturday. And this weekend has been the longest depressing weekend in a long time. Just to get some fresh air and think positive, I am here.
BSK's vocabulary and understanding is mind blowing. Now she can properly say 'apple' with her tongue thrusting out at the 'll'. Any fruit she sees is apple for her. Her 'teddy' is much clearer now. She can recognize a teddy anywhere even in BabieRUs. BSK knows how a dog barks, "Bha", how a cow moos, "MMmaaaaa", and how a lion roars," ooooo". The first time she did 'I dont know' by lifting both her hands to the side of her face and spreading her fingers, it was the cutest sight ever. If we ask where someone is and they are not in her sight she will go like that. I dont know. Or kaanom. Or theendhu pochu. Only three days ago, she learnt this. 'BSK epdi azhuva?' She will crinkle her nose and do a oooo. 'BSk epdi sirippa?' She will open her mouth wide and go haha. How the hell does she learn this? She now knows eyes, ears, nose, hair of herself and of amma and appa. Of course she will literally poke me in my eye when I ask her where amma's kannu is. She asks for paal, a very good pronunciation at that, tongue thrusting out. She claps, says 'tap tap' while clapping. She does this cluck cluck with her tongue when listening to music and even taps her fingers. The other day on the way to daycare to drop her, she was alone in the back seat, this rarely happens, so I was talking to her while driving. I started singing ba ba black sheep and she started clucking her tongue! Some new words she is learning faster are 'aater' for water, 'bed' for bread, 'tar' for car.
She can now say 'no no no no' with forefinger lifted, just like we do. She also shakes her head super vigorously to say no. Earlier if we ask her a question she would answer it, even when she is crying which is super cute. At a day care trial I was changing her diaper in the changing station. She was fussy and crying and just not lying down. She is scared to lie down in a new place, alien restrooms are her nightmare. So I distracted her by asking Elephant enge? There was an elephant painted right on the wall. She showed and said 'dhooo' through her tears. My heart melted. But now, when she is not in a mood to answer questions she will shake her head. Like 'No I wont do it, or No, I dont feel like it'. gah! Saying No has kinda backfired. Of course we see most of her vigorous no nodding at her feeding time.
Anything edible, and in the kitchen is mumum. She even recognized her mumums in BabiesRUs yesterday. And in the farmer's market, when we were buying fruits. I gave her piece of the sample peach, which she devoured. And gee, we cannot eat anything without her going mumum and wanting to eat it too. But of course little miss will not eat what we want her to eat, like egg, and paruppu sadham and veggies. She totally loves fruits. Strawberries are her favorite. You give her a sliced piece and she would bite a little and eat it slowly, dripping the juice all over herself and making a mess of course. She has still has no teeth. I am going crazy thinking of giving her food to eat that is not messy but still easy for her to eat and healthy. It is true that a toddler mother's day pretty much depends on how her toddler ate that day. She ate well on Saturday afternoon and I think, ah bringing up a baby alone is not so bad afterall. But Saturday dinner when she just wouldnt eat a single morsel, would spit out everything and drop everything on the floor, I went crazy wondering if I would be able to keep her alive. Since I noticed she like yogurt, Sunday I tried giving her curd rice. With strawberries in between. But smart lady would only eat the strawberries and spit the rest out. I gave up, like already! And DH took over. And then we let her eat right out of the bowl with her hands. She was excited. Like I can do whatever I want with this bowl? And then we gave her the spoon and saw what she did. She touched the food with the spoon and licked it. Nice! So we tried to scoop something in the spoon so it would make her way into the mouth. Looks like the little lady just wants to eat on her own!! She ate quite a bit that way, enjoying eating on her own. But of course everything was a mess, she was a mess, the high chair, the floor underneath. If every meal is going to be this way, I am dreading meal times. DH and I have decided that one gets to feed her while the other gets to clean the mess. Sharing is caring no?
Earlier my father used to provide lot of distraction to her, as in make clown faces, dance like a clown, sing, etc etc so she would eat inadvertantly. But I dont know if that is a good thing. The books say babies should be able to judge how much they want and we shouldnt over feed or force feed. But I dont know. Right now she is an average baby, not chubby and all. Doctor is not concerned but she did say in order to avoid pickiness we should eat together with her at the table. That never happened, because all of us ate at different times. Now that it is just the three of us, we have been eating together. And God knows I dont even realize what or how much I have eaten when I try to feed her. So anyway a good friend said we just have to keep trying and nothing worse will happen if she misses a meal, she will just make up for it in the next meal. Which I have seen happen first hand.
BSK has become overly clingy since she started daycare. I dont know if general clinginess coincided with her day care or if it is a by product of it. Especially at nights she needs me to be by her side full time. She needs me to play on me, pull my hair, sloch my face with her mouth, before sleeping. She would pull my hand close to her, put her tiny little leg on me and sleep. She has learnt to cry for anything and everything, I dont know if that is also a byproduct of day care. Earlier she didnt cry this way.
Anway more happier things. She loves to walk! I take her out in her cute little pink slippers and walk her in front of the house. At the airport we took her walking again and she just wouldnt let us carry her to bid good bye to my parents! She was way too busy enjoying her walking. She loves babies and kids. She calls them 'paapa'! Yes even the ones years older than her are 'paapa' :--P She loves kids that is the only thing that is keeping her in day care still I think.
I think she is settling into day care slowly. She cries when DH drops her. Thank God I dont have to drop her. I only get to pick her up. Today I was almost in tears when I saw her in the carseat playing with the teddy, with her big bag packed with snacks and breakfast and lunch and clothes and diapers for a full day. I guess it is good for her. She will get to play with babies her age, not be too pampered, learn some good things. But it still breaks my heart. I keep saying to myself, we all have to learn to be independant, by protecting her we are only postponing the pain. We will see how it goes. DH and I are taking turns working from home this week to check in on her as and when possible. I think she will be okay. It is just a matter of time.
BSK is also down with cough and cold because we were stupid enough to take her out on a walk without a sweater. Big no no in Bay Area inspite of warm day temperatures, as soon as sun sets, chill sets in. Also the yogurt might have a part to play. I am sick feeling guilty.
So do wish us luck as we embark on this different phase in life.
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how cute is BSK!!
Which day care does she go to ( email me!)?
You will get into the hang of things- dont worry.. I still wonder how ppl with more than one kid do it all by themselves..
Don't beat yourself up about the cough/cold.. She just started daycare na.. she is just about picking up all the germs from the other kids...
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What fun it must be watching your lil one talk and respond back. My lil one is almost 19 months and hardly says 4 syllables.
I took a break from work for 1 year because we did not any relatives who could come over to help us out and I did not have the heart to leave the baby with nanny/day care when my maternity leave ran out. So in a way you were blessed to have your family over to help you out for 1 year. In theory it does sound logical that the mother is fit enough to return to work in 6 weeks. Atleast for people like me who do not have any family help, maternity leave is not just about mom being fit to return to work. For people like me, we could only hope that US will have atleast in the future, generous maternity leave like some European countries.
Anyways, you could try boiled sweet potato wedges as finger food. Or pasta like orzo, mac and cheese. I cook pastas for my lil one in a small pressure cooker with sweet potato or butternut squash and it comes out so soft….that it would be east enough for even toddlers to eat them. You get cut banana nut squash, sweet potato and even rice mac and cheese in Trader Joe’s. Busy moms need all help that we can get.
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Hi SK,
Its me SKS :) who posted one comment long time back...I have a baby gal who is a month and half younger than yours remember now? I can clearly relate to how you feel on leaving BSK to day care because I am there and I have to make this transition in a few months now and I cannot even put in words on how I am feeling about this and I do not think people although can understand the emotions as they have been in same boat but never feel the exact pain and emotion we feel . I know after having the baby and getting so attached you want to be so protective want them to be at home and cared for my your loved ones if not you and then here you are not able to make some life changing situations its just hard.
What touched me the most is how they sleep in the night and get up all happy not knowing tha tin few hours they will be packed up to be sent to a day care yes they adjust because they have no words to say how they feel or they cannot out up a fit they have to adjust because how long can they cry then cannot even express on how if we come into their thoughts they cannot even pick up a phone and talk to us...you can see where I am going and how I feel.
What touched me the most in your post today are these lines " Today I was almost in tears when I saw her in the carseat playing with the teddy, with her big bag packed with snacks and breakfast and lunch and clothes and diapers for a full day. "
Please please tell me or post in few days everyday and tell me how she is doing i really want to know. I want to send my email id to chat more but dont want to do it here.
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Oh SK! Totally feel your pain and kutti paapa's too. It is so hard, but soon they will start loving the place so much./....
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It will get better, I promise, been there too! Just take it one day at a time.
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Hi SK, This is SKS :)
Wondering how you guys are doing especially BSK. How is the dare care situation working out? Is she doing fine now. Please update us when you get a chance.
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Daisy,
Yes yes yes. Two kids I cannot even imagine. I will never forget your schedule post. ;--)
Anon, they are develop at their own rate, there is still time. Yes support in the first year is very very crucial. Thanks for the tips on food items! Potatoes I have started giving her. Butter nut squash I have to try.
SKS, I felt like crying when I read your comment. Really it is a difficult change for the babies, but guess what they forget so quickly and they adapt so quickly!!!!! Something to learn from them. Hope your transition goes well too, do keep me posted.
We can definitely chat. You can email me at saranya.kish@gmail.com. Mommies can do with some company. :--) And BSK has been doing totally great at daycare this week. :--)
Saumya, yes! It is just a matter of time I know.
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how cute is BSK!!
Which day care does she go to ( email me!)?
You will get into the hang of things- dont worry.. I still wonder how ppl with more than one kid do it all by themselves..
Don't beat yourself up about the cough/cold.. She just started daycare na.. she is just about picking up all the germs from the other kids...