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| Thursday, December 14, 2006 |
I guess I spoke a few days too soon, when I wrote this post. I have to eat back my own words.
My inner conscience was scolding me then, "Romba kudhikkadha velai illannu, wait panni paaru, moottai moottai-ya vandhu vizhum thala mela and you will cry through your nose" And lo! it did! And I am almost crying now. I had to skip a team movie, Dejavu, to work. Tch! tch! I dont know why like a mundirikottai I went asked for more work to my boss. Curiosity kills the cat, I say, over-enthusiasm kills the employee.
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That aside, we got our Xmas tree. We put up the serial lights on the patio, it looks very nice. All lighted and bright. Slowly the bulb in my head is lighting up, forgot to buy the different ornaments that adorn the tree. One more added to the list of Things-to-buy at Walmart. I will put a picture of the tree once it is all decorated.
When I was in school, Walmart was far far way in the west side of the town. We visited Walmart probably once a semester, that was about it. But lately, me and DH seem to be frequenting the place every weekend. Like ennamo thavam senja madhiri. The lazy me put a rule in the house, that Walmart can have our esteemed visit, romba over than, theriyum, only if we can list out atleast five things to buy from there. DH absolutely loves going to Walmart, I dont, on the other hand, so you know how the trend goes.
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After seeing me and DH living in different cities for 1.5 years after marriage, people think we dont yearn or pine enough for each other's closeness. I can only pity their ignorance, though I cant say anything to make them think otherwise. We struggled hard to get married in the first place. It was an ordeal, and we went through it. Because me and DH are as different as we can be, we have never had a chance to live in the same city, save the few years in college.
And it also keeps the romance alive, thats how I pacify myself. The eageness to meet, waiting for the days to pass by for the weekend to begin, cramming in all the different things we want to do and share in the petty two days we get, even though sometimes hard on us, and gets to us, it keeps the underlying love alive, I think, and continues to keep life interesting.
We have all of our lives ahead of us, to live together. I take this brief period of separation to be a small detour before our journey begins. I have quoted earlier that DH and my job are my two eyes. Both equally important. I worked hard for both.
Like how I worked hard to make this marriage happen, it is still a miracle and God's gift how things worked out, an impossible task made possible because of people's good heart. The same way I worked hard to get this job. Very few know how much I struggled to get this job, something I wanted to do. Things are more cherishable and difficult to part with if one worked hard to get it.
PS: I did enjoy writing in this broken english, with tamil phrases interspersed. |
posted by SK @ 12:22 AM  |
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Ah-ha - idhukku thaan vaai vekka koodathu :-(! Good luck with your work - but lots of holidays coming up - that shd cheer you up :-)! Right now I am snowed under work too *sigh*!
Ah, I have lights in my house too - put them up during tnxgiving and turn them on in the evenings - looks cute :-D! Do put up pics of your xmas tree and lights!
Walmart? Hmm - do you get accosted by Quikstar people? Walmarts are their most favored trapping spots - so I always have an angry expression on my face when shopping in walmart to ward off Quikstarrers - LOL :-)!
Also, I applaud you for your decision to give your career importance too. I don't know who bugs you the most but I think that the belief among desis especially is that after marriage the wife should always put her home ahead of everything else because naturally, nothing else should matter to her now that she is married (I suspect that K does not get as much flak as you do for the decision because according to desi tradition, the girl has to do all the sacrificing). This is utter nonsense - there are many facets to every person and seeking fulfillment in all of them is totally normal. And just because you want to be happy in your job does not mean that you do not care about your house and vice versa. Don't worry about what other people say - people love to talk - you keep doing what you think is right! Good luck :-) *end of lecture*
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Hey Arch,
Oh oh :--(( I guess thats what we get paid for.
Hey you should put up pics too! :--)
Walmart - actually we have not been pestered by Quikstar people ever here....
And so glad to know that you think the same way too. Exactly what is wrong in wanting a piece of everything, and trying to make things work.? :--))
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Ah-ha - idhukku thaan vaai vekka koodathu :-(! Good luck with your work - but lots of holidays coming up - that shd cheer you up :-)! Right now I am snowed under work too *sigh*!
Ah, I have lights in my house too - put them up during tnxgiving and turn them on in the evenings - looks cute :-D! Do put up pics of your xmas tree and lights!
Walmart? Hmm - do you get accosted by Quikstar people? Walmarts are their most favored trapping spots - so I always have an angry expression on my face when shopping in walmart to ward off Quikstarrers - LOL :-)!
Also, I applaud you for your decision to give your career importance too. I don't know who bugs you the most but I think that the belief among desis especially is that after marriage the wife should always put her home ahead of everything else because naturally, nothing else should matter to her now that she is married (I suspect that K does not get as much flak as you do for the decision because according to desi tradition, the girl has to do all the sacrificing). This is utter nonsense - there are many facets to every person and seeking fulfillment in all of them is totally normal. And just because you want to be happy in your job does not mean that you do not care about your house and vice versa. Don't worry about what other people say - people love to talk - you keep doing what you think is right! Good luck :-) *end of lecture*