| I want to write a few words about my Dad.
He is the sole reason I am who I am, where I am. And for that I am thankful. He doesn't believe in Father's Day. He probably doesn't even know today is Father's Day and even if he does he doesn't expect to be appreciated for doing his duty. He has had some difficult times in his life and he is not the to quickly forget. He is extremely compassionate and resourceful and being a Taurean he is extremely stubborn in his ways too.
I have genetically or circumstantially inherited quite a few of his traits.
I am compassionate too. I cannot stand suffering. I can empathize. I derive pleasure from helping others. And I strongly believe in giving back when it is your turn. I have lofty goals and when I do I work my ass off for them. I care more about the things that really matter than the things at home. Home chores are never my priority and I have heard my Mom scold my Dad many times saying he doesn't help at home but goes around helping everyone around. I am super health conscious, usually, and my Dad is too. He is have extreme self control, I can have too if I really really choose to.
He is one of those parents that have sacrificed their lives for the well being of their children. Children come first before everything. The man would let go of 10 autos trying to bargain and save 10 rupees but wouldn't mind spending insane money on our education.
He have trouble in general being happy too, but I have come to realize that ambitious people have never been happy ;--p And we have to learn to live with it and be content with the small times of happiness we can steal once in a while.
He worked very hard in his life. He happily retired. And now he is doing what he enjoys doing, and keeps himself busy. He is fully immersed into church activities. He teaches Maths and English in the school run by the church which mostly has low income kids. He has positions in various councils so he is travelling attending meetings. He visited Rome and Bordeaux recently to represent India. He goes to Prison to talk to prisoners weekly. He is the one person that seems to have gotten out of the situation of his poor family, and now he is bringing up his family one by one as much as possible. And I cannot stop wondering what the state of my life would have been if my dad had not been so resourceful as to drag himself out of poverty by sheer will and hardwork. I wouldn't be here.
I never understood his stance on women. I don't remember him stifling me owing to being a woman except when wearing jeans to church or something. Or may be I didn't mind being chauffeured around everywhere. It was much later I realized he was still bound by the ideologies of his times. But that didn't stop him from sending me to the US all alone at the age of 23.
He cannot show love in the way normal dads do with hugs and all. But I am pretty sure he has done everything he can more with the resources available to him at that point to give us a much better life than what we imagined. And for that I am forever indebted and grateful.
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oh very sweet.Uncle is a taurean too??I like that :))
Happy father's day to Uncle.