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| Tuesday, November 22, 2011 |
My favorite months of the year are November and December. Happy happy times! Parties and general festive moments fill the calendar. Just seems yesterday that it was Thanksgiving and wrote this post on shopping. And now a whole year has gone by! Whatever have I accomplished in the past year? Apart from becoming a mother that is?
Apart from partying the rest of the year I am also going to plan for the next year, how I love planning! What needs to get done, in all aspects of life. A marathon, atleast half needs to be run. A whole bunch of pounds need to be shed. A host of books need to be read. A bunch of speeches need to be given. Some voluntary work needs to be done. A whole new disciplined SK needs to be re-created. I was on a roll before I went the family way and I need to pick up the slack now.
To be frank life is kinda boring in one way, but interesting in another. Boring because I am so dead tired of monotony. Just do the same thing over and over and over and over again. Is that all there is to life? Without the baby I could choose to ignore monotony point blank if I felt like it and just do what I pleased. Thankfully DH always was with me on any crazy itinerary I planned. But now, crazy is out the window. And I miss crazy.
We went for this birthday party. Where you get to meet all the other parents. And its all about the kiddos. Do parents not get to have a life of their own? While I do want to have such events for my baby, I dont want to be one of those parents. Sucked into the vortex of parenthood oblivious to everything else. But really do I have a choice? But I did feel rather out of place.
And we also went for an AID party this part weekend. Potluck. Lot of good food, good company. We watched a documentary on Caste System, and brain stormed on it. Here are some people focused on stuff that is not just about themselves. I like this gang. Selfless, helpful, friendly gang. People we could relate to and feel comfortable with. Not long ago we were part and parcel of this tightly knit group. And the baby changed everything. Late nights events, impromptu hikes and insane fund raising schedules are just not something we can pull off now with the baby. So, again, feel rather out of place.
So really what is our place? Is there a middle ground?
BSK is growing very well. En kanne pattudum pola irukku. I look at her and marvel wondering if she really was peanut sized same time last year in my womb. Tears in her eyes makes me weak on my knees. She doesnt cry often, mind you, so when she does cry, something is really wrong. While I was worried that she wouldnt take to strangers well, she behaved wonderfully well throughout the almost 2hr documentary when everyone was silent and did also manage to go without crying to many people. Not just that, she was laughing and smiling and playing with them! Gee! DH and I had this look of pride in our eyes as we watched her all the away across the room.
This little lady has taken over the entire house. Really one would imagine a small baby doesn't need much space, but God she has the most number of things around the house! She is sitting beautifully and reaching out for her play toys, only to put them in her mouth. I keep looking for that first tooth because really she has been drooling so much and biting at every darn thing, its high time that tooth shows up! Diaper changing time is so stressful with her not staying still, instantly rolling over and adding to the mess. Feeding her is also a challenge since she is so playful she wants to play with the bottle as well. I give her my hair to play with in her hands, and she keeps pulling at them while having her milk. If this continues I might just go bald by the time she turns a year old. She has so much hair! While it was cute in the beginning, now its just plain unmanageable! Here a hair there a hair everywhere a hair hair phew! If she rubs her eyes or rubs her face on the mat, bed, she has hair all over her face, right on her eyes. And they are so curly too! No amount of combing can give her a neat polished look. Of course bands and clips don't stay on her hard for long. What to do? Her laughs are just too contagious. Her grunts are un-lady like, the doc really understood my concern there :--P. Her eyes sparkle, her eye lashes are long, unlike either of ours. I realized she has stubby fingers and toes, apparently just like me. Sometimes she refuses to sleep, rarely, and yesterday was tough because DH has come down with a cold and BSK got her vaccinations and was cranky. She wouldnt sleep. I rock her, sing to her, put her to sleep, but the moment I put her in the crib she would wake up. I tried twice, then gave her to DH and slept off :--S. Last Friday when DH said 'Yay! Weekend!' in an email, I was depressed and said, 'how does that make a difference if I cannot forget about everything and just veg on the couch or just go away somewhere exotic?' But by Sunday evening I was showering BSK with kisses over and over, glad to WFH on Monday so I could spend some more time with her just hug her, keep her close, feel her tiny fingers on my hair, on my face, watch her kick and throw her legs all over and give that huge gummy smile.There is really nothing, nothing in the world that can melt away my stress than that beatific smile. This song captures the essence of parenthood. Vairamuthu rocks!
Really looking forward to the Thanksgiving time off. Have a good Thanksgiving folks! |
posted by SK @ 5:57 PM  |
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| 7 Comments: |
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haa... so BSK is already a charmer, is it?
Btw the lines you wrote abt other parties - i dont think you get say them as parents, i think :)
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Loving your updates, SK, though I'm not commenting every single time. End up reading on the phone and not commenting :)
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Hahaha this is some new perspective. All this while I was of the opinion that if my parents' lives didn't revolve around me something was wrong with them :p
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:) Perfecto!
" naan thooki valartha thuyaram nee".. genius illa?
btw, yaakai thiri ketirupiye.. "piravi pizhai kadhal thirutham"
" logam dhwaitham kaadhal adhwaitham"
"Thoduvoam, thodarvoam, padarvoam,
Maravoam, thuravoam " ammada yenna lines..
sorry got side tracked..
Btw-i think its high time we stopped saying " we should meet up " and just getit done.. wat say? weekday lunch first? u know my email id.. lemme know
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Eii... Having baby is better than playing board games
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Sachita,
:--P We are neither here not there.. atleast for now.
Nandini,
:--))) Sure! You should write more!
Chutney,
Yes I thought the same too. It hurts when it is us in their shoes doesnt it :--P
Daisy,
Yes totally!! Enathu vaanam nee.. izhandha siragum nee, aptly captures my sentiments haha!
yaakkai thiri I never understood, looked up, WOW!
Emailed! :--) Lets do it!
KDK, Baby is more responsibility, less freedom. And I dont like more responsibility and less freedom, avlothan. Btw, enjaaaaaaay with the wife in town ;--)
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I LOVE that song SK. Since the time I first heard it. Naan thooki valartha thuyaram nee - oru deivyam thandha poove kannil thedal yenna thaaye.....Wow! Some lyrics are keepers right? Not like the 'why-this-kolaveri'!
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haa... so BSK is already a charmer, is it?
Btw the lines you wrote abt other parties - i dont think you get say them as parents, i think :)